Ordinarily I wouldn’t bother and just delete and block but when they open with things like ‘You will call me Daddy/Master/any variety there of’ – my inner brat gets bitchy. And when they start giving me orders, oh sweet Jesus, I get hella fuckety!

I have only one Dom. One Daddy who I will gladly submit to and he alone can boss me about. Even then if I’m in a bratty mood I make him work for it and that’s someone I love, care for and respect. If some fucktard tries to tell me what to do it’s not gonna end well, and if they try to piss on me to stake a claim like a dog, I’m gonna chop their balls off like one. You might be a dom but you are not my Dom, so fuck off.

I’ve found my way onto the NSFW tik tok which is playfully called “kink tok” and I love it. I’m able to connect with so many people in the community and share ideas and thoughts. It’s wonderful for an introvert like me. But recently though there have been some issues with my favourite community. Most of which surrounding consent.

There is a video circulating of what is in my opinion assault – the sub prior to the scene said they didn’t want an item used then mid scene the dom (again small d got small dick energy) brought the item in and used coercion to get consent. It’s horrible to watch and the girl involved has spoken about the video and it’s heart-breaking as a sub seeing her trust destroyed like that.

There are also a lot of male Doms posting and in the comments women (and some men) calling them “Daddy", “Master", “Sir" without permission. It’s disrespectful and even after these Doms have said DONT people are still ignoring them and think it’s all a bit of fun. I’ve seen the subs respond and that too is upsetting. One specific woman is getting so much shit because she has asked these other women not to call her Dom by their honorifics to the point she’s been reduced to tears. It’s sad and I get where she if coming from. If someone called my Dom “Daddy” even after being warned not to I’d tear her hair out. She’s fair game. She was warned. It’s disrespectful and it’s not OK.

But you know what else is not OK, and here is where I’m gonna annoy people ... Doms making videos telling viewers to drink their water, put the phone down and go to bed or be a good girl for them. Doms calling viewers a brat or warning them to wait till they get their hands on them ... and then later make a video telling the same viewers not to use an honorific.

No.

You are contradicting the whole fucking argument when you do shit like that and your giving the vanilla peeps the wrong idea. You can’t play dom in your videos for clout then get angry that people are giving you an undeserved name in the next then go back to the thirst traps and bossing about in the 3rd. It doesn’t work. Pick a fucking lane.

I don’t respond to the orders given just like I don’t call these creators by anything other than their handle if I ever interact with them. Why? Because they aren’t my Dom! I know the rules but these vanilla peeps or baby subs don’t seem to know and when you keep chopping and changing you can’t reasonably expect them to wanna learn. And that’s assuming they have the mental capacity to learn. There are undoubtedly people on the app that are neurodiverse and they might not be able to comprehend the rules around honorifics. Not saying that’s why these people aren’t listening in the comments section, they could just be arseholes, but who knows.

I’m aware people should be allowed to post what they want within reason. And if you don’t like something you can just keep scrolling – I do this a lot thanks to euro 2021 but I digress. What you can’t do is post something then bitch about the reaction, and then go straight back to posting the same god damn thing. It’s illogical and you look like a cuntwaffle so gie it a bye!